First of all I want to take a minute to congratulate you on trying to save your marriage. We have an overall marriage failure rate of 85% – horrible! And this is because most people, unlike you, don’t make an effort to maintain their marriages. When trouble shows its head, they just let the marriage go. So I congratulate you for being like me and trying to save your marriage.When I learned that my husband wanted a divorce, even though I had seen it coming for some time, it was still a shock to me – the world went from under my feet. I was so desperate to prevent a divorce from happening, but I wasn’t able to think of anything but apologizing and begging to my husband for forgiveness.And those certainly didn’t help – they only made my spouse more fed up with me. But I wasn’t able to think of anything else to do to save my marriage.So what saved my marriage in the end?It was a realization that I should NOT give in to my emotions. It was a realization that I should go “against the flow” – and I should look for some marriage counseling advice from outside.And that is exactly what stopped my divorce.So, the first and maybe most crucial thing you have to do when you want to save your marriage is to acknowledge that your emotions are overwhelming you and making you do the wrong things – and then asking for unbiased outside advice for guiding you through the right path.
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